Monday, August 22, 2011

When the judge yourself, if you include the type of the sharpest critics and evil? The attitude of self-critic can be beneficial but also detrimental impact. You need to be overcome.

When co-workers congratulated on promotion that you just received, you actually even say that the actual work done is far from enough. Or, the most simple, when you are far more attentive to reflect the lack of visible and ignore the extra. For example, a dull hair, puffy eyes, acne are many.

If your mind is often boarded by a negative view of yourself, then no wonder if the plans and the desire to end the extent of discourse. The reason is not other people or external reasons, but your own thoughts. Other people may just give advice. However, you argue, criticize yourself if want to get ahead.

Actually, self-critic would be beneficial if you also appreciate the successes ever achieved."Self-critic will be bad and makes us judge ourselves negatively if done excessively. It is best to be fair to yourself," explains psychologist, Ida Diantini Viatrie, MSI from the University of Malang, East Java.

A person tends to focus on the ugliness or weakness, because they do not want to be judged ugly by others. Therefore, he will always try to find it before anyone else knew.

"The problem is, whether our efforts to overcome it realistic or even redundant? If realistic, we can certainly accept ugliness as part of the self and trying to match their best. The excessive weakness is that if we reject it vigorously, so that even looks ridiculous," he continued.

How to cope
"Believe in yourself. Thank shortcomings are, and discover the advantages and our greatness. It would be better than furiously reject ugliness or weakness," advises Diantini.

Accepting yourself as it is also included to receive the achievements, not necessarily even modestly to humble yourself. It is reasonable attitude is actually not hard to do. So, there's no point in sabotaging yourself by being a critic is too sharp and wicked against themselves.

Prevention Indonesia / Irene J. Meiske)

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